In our Purpose Statement, we name that we’re followers of Jesus “on the Way of Love.” The idea of being on this particular path comes from teachings of the desert mothers and fathers of 1500+ years ago, who considered life in the monastery (or for us, life in the church), as a school—a shared life where we are learning to love. Learning to recognize love, learning to receive love, learning to give love, learning to live in Love, the church is a laboratory. We are going to Love School.
Modern-day prophet and Kentucky farmer Wendell Berry says it like this: I believe that the world was created and approved by love, that it subsists, coheres, and endures by love, and that insofar as it is redeemable, it can be redeemed only by love.” The Art of the Commonplace: The Agrarian Essays of Wendell Berry (ed. Counterpoint, 2003) - ISBN: 9781582439242 So even when we have overslept and missed class, when we’ve got the flu at exam time, when we surf the web during an important class activity, there’s something irrefutable about our community’s encouragement. We get the notes from a classmate, we find a tutor, we go to the Love lab, we find a study partner until we get caught up on the material.
Wendell Berry echoes what Dorotheos of Gaza described to his desert community of long, long ago. If a group of people practicing the Jesus-following Way stands in a circle and God is the center, then every step closer to God brings the individuals closer to one another. Every step closer to one another brings them closer to God.
Unfortunately, in the school of recurrent-themes-of-human-behavior, not everyone gets the memo and even some of us who do receive it choose not to pay attention. Like clueless Joseph in the Hebrew Testament’s Genesis story, arrogantly telling his dreams to his siblings and parents, “how not to be on the road together” is sometimes more reflective of our situation.
Desert cisterns, wild animals, camel caravans bringing traders and goods from far-off lands: the story of Joseph, thrown into a cistern to be sold off by his brothers, highlights the conflictual nature of the wilderness. It is at once desolate and rich, stifling and causing despair while providing life and insight that can’t be found anywhere else. The desert is death and life. The wilderness is beauty and terror.
The Desert Mothers and Fathers, the Ammas and Abbas of the third and fourth century deserts of Egypt and Gaza and Syria and Turkey, were about learning to love. They were about learning how not to snipe at each other. They realized that at times each one of them might be in danger of a toss into the cistern by their siblings and they were determined to overcome the impulse to violence large and small. Their purpose was a journey toward how to be humble, how not to resent one another, and how to resist comparing themselves to one another. Brilliant and compassionate Roberta Bondi says, “The Desert Mothers and Fathers claimed no other virtue greater than that of not being scornful.” Roberta Bondi, To Love as God Loves
Learning to love God, to love yourself, and to love your neighbor is, above all, about learning how not to judge those with whom you share the world. “Don’t judge fornicators,” say the Ammas and Abbas, “because the one who said, ‘Don’t fornicate’ also said, ‘Don’t judge.’” And there, we have to fill in our own favorite objects of scorn. Don’t judge those who gossip. Don’t judge those who scorn you. Don’t judge those who aren’t as responsible as you. Don’t judge those whose values are different. Because the one who says, “Don’t gossip, don’t be scornful, don’t be irresponsible, don’t neglect these things we value,” also said, “Don’t judge.”
There is an awful lot of wisdom in the desert. Personally, I would rather avoid being dropped into a cistern, and I would prefer to learn desert wisdom while photographing wildflowers and birds and lizards and beautiful sunsets; while gazing in awe at mountain vistas and at tiny, hidden forms of life and beauty. Like Joseph, though, I’m obnoxious. I like to tell my dreams. I’m insensitive to the feelings of those in my community. I judge. It’s a good thing that I enjoy looking up from the cistern where my options are limited to activities like mapping the constellations.
And I appreciate more and more the voices in my community (voices that echo Joseph’s brother Judah) who say, “Let’s not harm her because she’s our sister—she’s family.” For us, being on the Way of Love brings lessons in personal prayer, common worship, everyday work, and service in the cause of following Jesus. The community is the laboratory in which we learn these life-saving, life-giving wilderness survival skills. My work is to be a better student.